Some people believe that to fully heal from anything you have to be able to forgive. This is not true, especially when healing from abuse, it is not necessary to forgive your abusers. Some feel like they have to usually due to religious beliefs, or they think if they don't forgive they will continue to be angry and bitter, which is not the case either.
I choose not to forgive, because I believe abuse is an unforgivable crime. That person has forever changed a persons life for the worse, especially when it's abuse to children. The abuser takes away any chance of a healthy upbringing for that child, it forces the child to grow up quicker to never feel safe or protected and completely takes away their childhood. Abuse doesn't just affect the survivor though, it affect everyone else in the survivors life, their friends, their partner, their family, it touches everyone.
So no I will not forgive those that abused me because they have caused a life time of pain and hurt for me, they have made having a relationship with anyone else terribly hard and trialing, and have made me wonder if I would ever be able to allow someone far enough in to marry them someday or if I am destined to forever be alone because I don't have the ability to open up and trust people anymore.
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