Some females have this desire, this need to try and fix the broken men for whatever physiological reasons, for each female it is slightly different why they have this desire.
It is one thing to help friends out. For me having been through so much and having accomplished so much healing on my own it is natural that most of my friends come to me for some of their harder life issues, and I am always happy to help. Although in the friend category there are boundaries. Their issues do not have to pull you down. On top of that you are usually just giving them advice and not trying to fix them.
Where as in a relationship you are very much so emotionally connect to this person, and if the are really broken especially to the core, one must always remember that only they and fix themselves. No matter how much you are there for them, until they are ready to change they wont, and if you are one of those females and decide to jump on ship with them, more than likely you'll go down with them.
Even if you are one of the lucky ones and manage to help that guy fix himself, more than likely he will leave you, because now that he believes himself to be fixed and whole he doesn't want to be with someone who knew him as he was, and also you'd be a constant reminder of what he use to be. Not the shining helping angel that you hoped you'd be to him after.
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