Disney

 Here is a little rant about Disney. I'm not going to lie, I'm a total sucker for Disney. BUT their underline lessons for what relationships are and how women should be, especially the older Disney movies, are FUCKED UP. Now there is a lot to go on with this topic, there are so many physiological issues when it comes to the Disney topic, but today I'm really only going to touch on one today.
 One true love, the idea that there is only one person out there for you. as a survivor of multiple sexual abuse and multiple abuse in general who has relationship issues and shies away from any relationship that seems it might be legit, this idea causes a problem for me. Pretty much every girl who's been exposed to Disney dreams about and looks for her "one true love." For me it adds another fear, like "What if I've missed this person?" I've pushed away so many great, amazing guys in my life due to my whole relationship issues, and what if I can't enter into a relationship with said person if and when I do meet him. Now a true Disney believer might say that because I didn't end up in a long, lasting, loving relationship with them than they weren't my one true love and that he is still out there.
 Bull shit, let's be honest here, when people first enter a relationship that ends up working out and marriage and all that stuff that they want. It's because both partners were finally ready to "settle down" so to say. They were both willing to actually put the work into a healthy, working relationship, besides just letting passion and love rule them. A real, lasting relationship takes time and effort and work from both partners, of course it's rewarding, wonderful and all that as long as both patterns are committed to it. It still takes effort though because you are trying to make two very different people's lives work together, there is always ups  and downs, plus the learning that everyone changes to some degree as they grow, things change, and learning to change and grow with their partner instead of wondering what happened to the person they first started dating.

Anyways there's my little rant for the morning.